Chances are that if you have spent any time in an office, you come to realize that there are a lot of connections that people have to each other. After all, when you are spending eight hours a day in the same room together, you quickly learn a lot about a person, and this can lead to friendships.
In fact, sometimes spending this much time with another person can lead to more than just a friendship. If you realize that a male coworker seems to treat you differently, but not in a bad way, you might begin to wonder whether or not that male coworker likes you.
It can sometimes be difficult to tell if you are simply imagining that his actions are meant to show love, or if he is truly trying to show you that he thinks of you as more than a friend. Thankfully, there are a few telltale signs that can show that a man’s actions are more than that of a friend.
There are a few different ways that people can express interest in another person, and the way that each person expresses interest in someone else is going to be different for each person. Some people are much more physical about their interest, expressing it through their body language primarily and through their words afterward.
Likewise, there are people who are more eloquent and express themselves through their speech, while the body language might be a lot more subtle. When a man begins to express his feelings for you in all of these different categories, you can generally assume that these are signs a male coworker likes you. Here are some of the most common signs, divided by body language, speech, and actions that he takes toward you.
What Is His Body Language?
While people communicate primarily through speech, there is a lot of meaning that is left behind in body language. The same statement can have a vastly different meaning when it is said by someone standing firmly with their arms crossed compared to someone standing in a relaxed position with their hands in their pockets.
When people are focusing more on another person, even if they aren’t saying anything toward you, they may inadvertently express it through their body language and men at the office are no exception to this rule. If a man is interested in you, you may notice some of these actions.
When you talk to him, there’s a good chance that he will be angled toward you in one way or another. He may be facing you full-on, even when you are not the one talking to him (such as in a meeting). He may turn to face you fully more often, or he may have his feet pointed toward you the whole time.
This is an indication that he is putting his focus on you and thinking about you. Another sign would be that he may become fidgety around you. In the same sense that girls will twirl their hair if they are around somebody they are interested in, men might find excuses to move their hands around, maybe running them through their hair or putting them in their pockets. This shows that he is feeling emotions and feels an energy that he doesn’t know what to do with, which is often a sign that he is interested in you.
What Does He Say?
It can generally go without saying that speech is a massive part of life and communication between people. Because of this, there are several things that you can keep an eye out for if you are wondering whether or not a male coworker is interested in you.
The truth is, he may not even say anything in particular. He may simply try and find any excuse to talk to you about whatever is on his mind, but he chooses to speak to you every time. This often shows that he has an interest in you and he wants to include you in his life. He may ask you about how your day went, or how you are doing. This is another sign that he wants to know more about you as a person, and maybe even who you are outside of an office setting. He may ask you about your interests, or if he already knows about a mutual interest, he may talk about that interest with you.
If he notices that you may be struggling with the work that you are doing, he may politely ask if you need help and offer you his help. Generally, when a man is interested in you, he will make all of the efforts that he can to spend more time with you, talk to you more, and learn more about you. He may not say directly that he is interested in you, but the fact that he is actively putting in the effort to be around you more often is a clear sign that he has taken an interest in you.
How Does He Act?
Finally, between body language and speech, there are the actions that the man might take toward you. When men are interested in women, they often try to make that woman a part of their life. What this means is that he may try to ask you out on a date, or that he may try to spend more time with you to get to know you.
There are a couple of things that he may also do if he is interested in you. For instance, if you are in a situation where you have done something wrong at work, and even if you are completely in the wrong, he may try to come to your defense and help you out. If he sees other guys spending time with you, he may appear to be jealous. If it is possible at your workplace, he may try to schedule his own breaks around yours and he may ask to have lunch breaks with you. If you have coffee in the office and he notices that you drink it regularly, he may start bringing you coffee when he can. These are the types of actions that men tend to take when they are interested in someone in their workplace.
By nature, men tend to be more direct about the fact that they like someone. This means that he will often take action and try to spend more time with you if he really is interested in you. Not only will this give you a clear idea on whether or not it is your imagination, it will also mean that you may not have to fret about being the one to initiate conversation.
Taking Things Further
If you notice that a man is interested in you and you are positive that he really does have an interest in you, but you realize that he may be on the shier side of things and may not want to initiate asking you out, it might be time for you to take action.
You can consider spending more time with the man and doing nice things around the office for him, if you reciprocate the same feelings. This will send a message to the man that you also like him, and from there, there’s a good chance that the two of you will be able to start a real relationship.