It has been said that women are from Venus and men are from Mars – or is it the other way around?
In any case, the bottom line is this: Women and men are completely different in almost every way, and nowhere is that clearer than when you’re asking yourself, “does he like me?” Whether you’re 16 or 60, you might be put in a position where you’re asking yourself this question, because believe it or not, it isn’t just teenagers who want this all-important question answered!
Is This the Guy I Should Be Going After?
When you’re crushing on a guy, especially if you’re young, it can be very difficult to tell if he likes you back. One of the easiest ways to tell is to look him in the eye when you see him and see if he looks you in the eyes back. If he doesn’t look away but instead keeps looking at you, especially if he smiles while he’s doing this, it’s very possible that he likes you.
Of course, some guys are too shy to do this, so he may look away even if he’s interested in you. Still, eye-to-eye contact is one of the first signs that the guy you are interested in likes you in return.
Oddly enough, another way to tell if a guy likes you is to watch his behavior as you talk to him and see if he mimics what you’re doing. In other words, does he brush his hair back after you do or touch his forehead after you touch yours? It’s not that uncommon to subconsciously mirror someone’s behavior when you like that person, so this can be a good indication that he likes you.
Not Just for Teenagers
Even if you’re over a certain age and you’re just getting back into the dating scene, a guy’s behavior can make it difficult to determine if he is into you. With older men especially, he might ask you a lot of questions about yourself in an attempt to find out everything about you that he can. If he wasn’t interested in you, he would never be doing this.
Once again, odd behaviors can mean that a guy likes you, and one of the oddest is that he’ll ignore you. For a lot of guys, they may just be too nervous around you to talk to you about more than just the weather. If he seems to be ignoring you too much, he could very well actually like you.
Or, he could talk fast around you and maybe even stutter. Both of these are signs of nervousness, and if he’s that nervous around you, he could very well like you.
Speaking of communication, consider who the first person is to initiate conversations between the two of you. Think of your phone calls, texts, emails, and in-person communications. If he’s the one that usually initiates it, he probably is interested in you. Of course, if he’s only initiating the conversation at certain times of the day, such as night time, this could be a bad sign instead of a good one.
The same goes for all contact on social media. If he is one of your followers on pages such as Facebook and Instagram, especially if he follows you on more than one of these pages, it’s very possible that he likes you. Of course, he could just be a social guy that likes having a lot of friends on Facebook, but it could also mean that he is interested in you.
When you’re talking to a guy and you’re wondering, does he like me, think about the details he remembers when he’s talking to you. If you told him something once that you consider insignificant but he remembers it and reminds you about it in a later conversation, he probably likes you. Otherwise, small details just wouldn’t matter to him.
It’s Sometimes Hard to Tell
Sometimes a guy will do one thing that makes you think he’s interested in you and something else that makes you think he couldn’t care less. The bottom line is, the more actions he takes that shows he might be interested in you, the more likely he is. If you have a list of five things that you consider signs that he likes you and he shows four of those signs, you can usually take it to the bank that he’s interested in you.
Here’s another one: look at his body language. If he leans closer to you when the two of you are talking, tries hard to make eye contact with you, or his pupils dilate whenever the two of you are talking, these are usually signs that he likes you. In fact, if a guy is doing all of these things but otherwise acts like he’s not interested, the chances are good that he does, in fact, like you. Behaviors speak louder than words!
Starting at the Very Beginning
Before we go any further, let’s look at things from the very beginning. Nobody taught men – or women, for that matter – how to date, but it seems we instinctively know just what to do when we’re on a date. One of the instincts that men have when they’re interested in someone is to brag or show off in some way. This can be exemplified in numerous ways, including:
- Mentioning that he just bought something expensive
- Listening to the radio in their car very loud
- Mentioning how much money he has
- Showing aggression with the other men around you
Many men naturally like to show off in some way, but if he’s constantly doing those things when you’re nearby, you can bet that he likes you.
In fact, basic behaviors are often a sign that a guy likes you, regardless of your age. He might try to make you laugh, pick on or tease you a lot, or even look for excuses to touch you; for instance, he might want to give you a “high five” or he touches your arm a lot as you talk. Guys won’t touch someone they don’t like!
A Few Final Comments
Asking yourself, does he like me, is something women of all ages do, and if you pay close attention you can easily answer that question for yourself. Guys will often do everything in their power to stand out when you’re around if he’s interested in you – things such as bringing up stories of his personal or professional accomplishments, leaping to your defense when the situation warrants it, or any other actions that could be construed as him trying to be your “knight in shining armor.”
When all is said and done, it isn’t that difficult to tell if a guy is into you. Although many of the cues he’ll give off when he’s interested in you are very subtle, that doesn’t mean you won’t be able to recognize them. In fact, the more closely you notice exactly what he’s saying and doing when he’s around you, the more likely you’ll be able to tell if he does indeed have an interest in you. Just pay attention to the cues he is showing and you should get your answer before you know it.